The 'first' phases

Yesterday I went on a date. And yes, this might seem normal to some people, but definitely not me. Even in my last relationship, there was no ‘dating’ as such. So I guess it was quite strange to meet up with someone you hardly know for coffee.

Typically, thoughts went around in my head. This included ‘How do you greet each other?’ ‘What do you talk about?’ and ‘How do you end the date? Do you initiate another meeting?’. Let me run you through my actions to these thoughts.

Greeting: Unfortunately, I arrived about 3.59 minutes prior to him. I was seated and waiting. When he arrived, I kind of stood up… yes a little awkward on my part.

Conversation: Literally, we chatted about everything. Families, uni, work, Canberra, AFL, interests and the upcoming Easter break…. Maybe the conversation wasn’t structured but I guess we now know a lot more about each other (except I felt like a bit of a scatter brain).

Date ending: Please don’t judge me, but I wanted to pay. Yes, he tried to stop me (in a calm and jokey way) but I just did it. Not sure why, and I hope this doesn’t make him feel less manly.
After all, it was just coffee as friends right?? Nothing about meeting again was initiated though… not that I expect someone to just come out with it, but I guess I was hopeful…. Maybe it didn’t go as well as I thought.

From what I am told, the first dates are always a little awkward…

People who attempt to crawl into your life

Have you ever noticed that sometimes, as soon as you start to forget about someone or something and start to feel good about yourself, it suddenly pops back up (or at least attempts to)?
Is this the universe telling us that we are better off without that drama in our lives? All I can say from experience is, it's bloody typical!

Inspiration for the day!

I came across this post this morning. I couldnt help but want to share it. http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/AUltAQ/www.allatsea.co.za/froglunch/people.htm

Insecurities

I have many friends who have insecurities and doubt themselves. My question is, is this just a female thing?

To be perfectly honest, these friends who have these insecurities are honestly the best catches! They are very attractive, driven, great personalities and are easy going.

My presumption is to why these lovely ladies doubt themselves is simply because of men. It can be rejection, it can be the 'type' of girl some men are seen with, it can be the way they are treated.

I was passed on this article last week, and it honestly made me feel sick. These are the type men which are completely degrading to women. http://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity/adams-business-is-sure-picking-up/story-e6frfmqi-1226039428393

The best male friends

As many females realise, the best male friends you can have are those which are gay. No, not the ones you can't pick or are unsure, but the actual ones who are certain of their sexuality. 

I have a fair few gay friends, both male and female. I have come to realise that gay male friends are the best for actually knowing many straight, nice, attractive men!

Another good thing about these male friends is that, if at all, you question the situation, they will give you the most honest advice regarding relationships or other related issues. These are the men that actually have your best interests at heart.

I guess I have been missing one of my friends who fits this category - not because he's gay, but because he is one of the best people I know. Have you got a friend like this?

When you actually start noticing good looking people

Call me crazy, but I never really noticed how many good looking people there are... well not until I recently became single.
You can call me Penny. I am 23, and as previously mentioned, recently single from a four-year live-in relationship.
Lately, I've been beginning to actually ‘notice’ attractive men when I have been doing the most regular things. Walking to and from work, going to the footy, getting coffee and heading out for lunch. Of course, this might seem obvious, but when you’re in a committed relationship, I guess we look, but don’t really see.

This blog is going to be about the most miniscule things you realise when you become single. I have been single for just over two months now, and it’s already been a real eye-opener. Firstly, I have realised that no, not everyone is nice in this world. I knew that before, but I guess it hadn’t really had an impact on me. Secondly, yes, people will just tell you what you want to hear to get what they want and nothing more, and thirdly, the people that tell you what you don’t want to necessarily hear, keep them close as they are the ones who have your best interests at heart.

Feel free to post stories or issues on here. This is not just for people who have become single or in a relationship, but everyone who would like to contribute. We are all in the same game, everyone is searching for happiness, and yes, there are hurdles along the way. These hurdles can be heart breaking, but also the best experiences for us. Post away!